A recent article in Marketing Week about post-pitch follow up made me think about why agencies win pitches, even though they might not necessarily have “performed” the best on the day. Paul Arnold has written a great summary of ‘Click – The Magic of Instant Connections’ by Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman which describes just this phenomenon. In a nutshell, the book states that we are not drawn to people by rational assessment, but emotional factors. People who connect better tend to be more successful, have more friends and work in teams that are more productive. In a world where building the quality of relationships is critical, how can one improve one’s ability to build rapport? 5 accelerators are identified in the book: Vulnerability, Proximity, Resonance, Similarity, and Safety. 1. The power of “vulnerability”Revealing our inner fears, weaknesses, builds trust because we are putting ourselves at emotional, psychological or even physical risk (metaphorically exposing our neck to them). It’s when we start to talk about how we ‘feel’ about something that we really start to engage at a deeper level with other people. 2. The power of “proximity”The physically closer people are, the emotionally closer they are likely to become –…